“If you were dedicating 40 hours a week to game, what’s the best break down of time?
I’m thinking of splitting:
30-32 hours split between day game and dates and night game,
4-5 hours writing field reports (45 mins a day)
4-5 hours watching infield (inc notes + analysis), at least initially”
*A little rant*
How everyone dedicates their hours to game will differ from person to person! Everyone should go through a thorough analysis of your own game where you are—all your weaknesses and strengths.
Having a period (at least 4 weeks) to really break down your game and pinpoint your weaknesses and strengths accurately is essential. The only problem with this is based on my coaching experience. A lot of guys aren’t even able to analyze their own game or experiences. They don’t know what their weaknesses or strengths are. And often, when they think they do, they are wrong. And even when they point out a couple of sticking points, those sticking points may not even be that big of a deal, and they often focus too much time and energy on those sticking points.
I was essentially wasting weeks, months, or years in game.
I think this is where our UMP boot camp is super valuable. It’s sometimes far less about techniques and routines and just more about identifying what you’re doing wrong and right and how to effectively and efficiently move forward with your time and energy.
Stop taking action for the sake of taking action. A lot of people are taking a lot of action, but taking the wrong action. And over months and years. For a lot of guys, the simple experience of getting out there is super helpful. But eventually, and sooner than later, you need to have an action plan. You need to take the proper steps and use those 40 hours efficiently and effectively.
I can pinpoint almost all students’ sticking points and how to work on them immediately within 7 days, if not the first day or two. But early in my journey, it took me far longer to identify and create appropriate steps moving forward for myself. I had to get it wrong many, many times.
So many of you will also go through something similar. But you can use this group, for example, or even other members/wings to give you advice.
The best feedback I ever get always comes from the girl. Especially if you can get them to open up honestly or decipher what they truly mean.
We had a student on the program to get feedback from his girls after a blowout or set. It was on par with exactly what we were telling him.
Which solidified (in his mind) what he needed to focus on. It was one reoccurring issue—every time. You can do the same with your wings and the girls.
You should be doing this during your 4 week analysis period (or longer). I’d focus far less on actually getting lays and validation and more on getting the feedback needed to improve and take your game to the next level. Learning (and taking risks, experimenting) should prioritize getting a couple of lays during this time.
In between sets or at the end of the night (Alexander Lindberg would recommend in between sets), you should debrief on your phone while it’s fresh. Alex wrote a thing all about this, so I’ll leave this part for him to explain. I’d want as much feedback as much as possible during these 4 weeks. I want to take risks. I want to take on as many new experiences as possible. Experiment as much as possible. Be willing and ready not to have much “success”.
In the end, you should have some reoccurring themes. A pattern of mistakes. Or even things you’ve done well every time. Alex’s debrief template will help form a bigger picture when you analyze it.
You’ll then form a list of your weaknesses (or sticking points).
It could be 20, 30… or just 5. But you’ll want to rank them in order of priority. This will be based on how often these sticking points keep reoccurring in interactions. Or they may be the reason interactions don’t flow or move forward, or abruptly end.
Start at #1 and put all your focus and energy into improving in whatever that area is. Create an action plan that you believe will work (asking one of us will drastically help) and take action. When I was learning, I tried doing a thousand things at once and going nowhere. It wasn’t until I focused on one significant weakness and improving before moving onto the next that I started to see huge improvements.
When you go down that list (things will always be added to that list!) of sticking points, they will become less severe, and you’ll be able to take on more of them at once.
Or you can take your strengths and make them even stronger. Doing this will mask or make up for a lot of the smaller sticking points.
Again, there is a period in the journey where you may need to sacrifice getting results (aka lays and validation) for the sake of learning and increasing your skills. Don’t be a pussy. The trickiest part of this process is that your mindset may be the biggest issue of all holding you back. You always start and work on your mindsets (mental weaknesses) first before moving onto external stuff.
Fixing your body language and tonality, etc.. will def help internally. But we’ve had students who had a massive roadblock, and all they needed was a shift in mindsets. Then they were able to unleash their true potential. That could take a couple of days (you know who you are) or weeks, months, etc..
If you have terrible mindsets (negative mentality, etc.) and think taking action and learning techniques and routines will somehow get you past it, it won’t. You’re just avoiding the issue. You’re looking for the easy road… (you know who you are…)
You need to have structure. And you need to simplify everything. A clear action plan. Clear short and long-term goals. One step at a time. Do not overwhelm yourself (RSD shit comes to mind). Be willing to go on a long journey. To suffer and sacrifice the occasional success that you’ve gotten thus far.
Lastly, to answer the day game, night game, and online question. Balance is key, in my opinion. Do not do all online game. Do not do all day game or all night game. All night game will kill you. All online game will not maximize your potential. If you’re me, you’ll do less night game and more day game and online dating. Balance is essential, though! What matters is that you’re able to work on your sticking points/weaknesses consistently.
Don’t sit at home and jerk off to theory and infield. I am convinced 99% of guys to do this. I know who is at the clubs and who is at home hitting us up about theory. Don’t be that guy.
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